Difference between loneliness and solitude

People often mixing loneliness with solitude. I think both feelings are important for self - growth, but let's make it clear what is what. Actually, the main difference is that you enjoy in solitude, but not in loneliness. Solitude is healthy, loneliness not really. Solitude is charging your batteries. Need to get away from people and loud outside world and cuddling with your dog on your sofa on cold rainy friday night, while all your friends are partying. But you like it. You need time for yourself and to be alone to clear your thoughts, intentions. Solitude is walking in the forest while your mobile phone is at home. Do it more often and you will see how peaceful it is and soon you will become addicted to it. When we are in solitude period main task is to improve ourselves, even professionally or spiritually. This is great time to improve your hobby or try a new one. It's great time to do what you always wanted, but never had time, because of busy lifestyle. It's perfect time to watch the movies you always wanted or enjoying discovering new songs and artist. People think it's a waist of time, but it's not. It's necessary to more often doing what we love and what we are passionate about. Small things are important too and actually giving life more purpose. Remember how you were happy that day when ordinary stranger smile at you or are you still listening to that song that your friend send it to you? Solitude is also meeting deepest parts of ourselves. Dark and light. And it's not comfortable at all. But once you find them you can work on them and become best version of yourself. Sometimes it took weeks, sometimes years to face our darkest sides, but at the end you will be grateful to you that you were brave and diligent and you will be proud of yourself. More painful is to live a lifetime of illusions, fears, masks and not living your full potential. Some people die and don't use their potential, but that is also ok. Not everyone succeed in this life. You will have countless opportunities, because soul is eternal.

Loneliness... is being alone in cinema full of couples and you wish person you love is sitting next to you. It's being at a music festival and everybody around you is happy, euphoric, smiling and dancing, but somehow you are not happy and you don't know why. It's walking through the city during Christmas period full of lights, observing people around you. You look at their happy faces and see sparkle in their eyes. You see group of friends hugging each other. Loneliness is spending your school or work breaks alone, because people you work with are mean or bully you. Loneliness is knowing your parents likes your siblings more than you and you always try to impress them and show them your worth, but then you stop doing it and you move on. You know your worth. Loneliness is when you are in bed watching movie and wishing your husband is next to you, but he is on that business trip again, but deep inside you know he is too busy cheating you and flirting with other women, way younger and way more beautiful than you. Loneliness is having no one to talk to, but you want to open up so badly. Or maybe you have, but you don't trust them to open up. Loneliness is being with group of people, but imagining you are with someone else. It's staring at phone waiting for message that is not coming. Loneliness is having your music concert performance you are so proud of and all your friends have a lot of family members and friends that will come to see them, but all your reserved seats are empty.

Loneliness is hard, heart- breaking, sometimes even traumatic. But most beautiful songs and poets are written in loneliness. Most beautiful paintings, books and movies are inspired because of this feeling. Medal always have two sides. Loneliness is a ticket to solitude and solitude is cherry on the top of the cake. Once you experience solitude and start to enjoy it, you are not coming back to loneliness anymore. One without another wouldn't exist. If you are currently lonely be proud of yourself and everything you learned and still learning along the way. Just around the corner soon you will see amazing benefits. If you are going alone in cinema or fancy dinners or even partying I am proud of you. You are already mental strong and independent, only good can come out of that. If you are not brave enough to try spending time alone, specially in the public, what are you waiting for?